WASHINGTON, D.C. — It's one of the hardest moments of National Police Week, slowly watching the name of a fallen officer pop out as it is etched off the National Law Enforcement Officers Memorial. For Tracy Holte, it's her son Cody's name.

"Very emotional, makes it more realistic that he's really gone," she said.

During that special moment on the wall, Tracy Holte was reminded of her son's strong faith in God. Cody Holte was only 29 years old when he was killed doing the dangerous job he loved.

"Cody would always say, 'when it's my time, it's my time.' That's what he would always say to us," said Tracy Holte.

A year and a half has passed since that tragic day. Officer Holte's parents say some days it feels like it's been years, but most of the time it still feels like yesterday.

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"Whoever said it gets easier with time — you learn to deal with it a little more every day. There are still days when you break down," said Cody's dad, Bret.

Cody's parents want to thank the community for all the support since May 27, 2020 — the simple gestures like yard signs, or Lex Olson's lemonade stand that raised $11,000.

"Having people come up to you and talk to you about it, even though we may break down, it still helps us to talk about him," said Bret Holte.

Also helping with the grieving process for the dozen members of the Holte family who made the trip to Washington, D.C. — including Cody's twin brother Brady Holte, who is a Fargo police officer — were the three dozen members of the Grand Forks Police Department and the Grand Forks County Sheriff's Office.

The community also raised $100,000 to cover the cost of the trip.

The name "Cody Nathaniel Holte" is forever engraved along with the nearly 22,000 other officers who gave the ultimate sacrifice.

"(It's) very honoring as parents," Tracy Holte said. "He's our hero, will always be our hero."