Question: When I started this job, my boss asked for my cell phone number in case of an emergency. After a while, he began sending text messages that had nothing to do with work. Even though this seemed unprofessional, I answered to avoid offending him.
Recently, I discovered that my inbox was full, and almost all the messages were from him. This has become really annoying, so I'd like to put a stop to it. What should I do?
Answer: Without knowing the content of these "unprofessional" messages, it's hard to tell whether your boss is an electronic stalker or just a hyperactive texter. If he simply seems to be one of those people who feel compelled to transmit their every thought, then you should be able to renegotiate the terms of your communication agreement. For example: "I've discovered that constant texting is interfering with my activities and my relationships, so I'm trying to break the habit. I've turned off my text alert, but you can still call my cell phone if there's an emergency." After that, you must immediately stop answering his messages.
If your boss protests this restriction, you might agree to check text messages occasionally and respond to any urgent work issues. This will indirectly make the point that work is the only reason for the two of you to communicate.
On the other hand, if his comments are suggestive or inappropriately personal, this could be considered sexual harassment. In that case, you should immediately talk with the appropriate person in human resources or upper management.
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Q: My husband and I want to move from Wisconsin to either Florida or Texas.
I've been responding to online job ads, indicating that I will pay my own relocation expenses. Despite my 20 years of experience, I have not even had a nibble. Do you think out-of-state applicants are taken seriously?
A: This is usually a question of supply and demand. When there is a local surplus of qualified candidates, employers may ignore unsolicited resumes from out of state. But if homegrown applicants are scarce, people from elsewhere are more likely to be considered.
In your case, however, a bigger problem may be that you are taking a scatter-shot approach to your job search. Instead of randomly seeking openings in your target states, you need to identify two or three communities that seem attractive, then explore employment possibilities there.
After working for 20 years, you should have enough contacts to eventually connect with "people who know people" in your preferred locations. This may enable you to learn about available positions before they are advertised. To increase your marketability, get professional advice on how to create a dynamic resume and ace a phone screening. You must also decide how you will handle the travel costs for on-site interviews. Employers may not offer to pay expenses, and they are unlikely to hire you sight unseen.
