It takes an e-village to raise a childWhile your world shifts in previously unimaginable ways when you become a parent, one fundamental thing does not: You need a village to help you along. As a result, many new moms are seeking sanctuary and support in blogs and Facebook, according to a couple of recent studies.
By: Michelle Maltais , Chicago Tribune
While your world shifts in previously unimaginable ways when you become a parent, one fundamental thing does not: You need a village to help you along. As a result, many new moms are seeking sanctuary and support in blogs and Facebook, according to a couple of recent studies.
About 44 percent of new, first-time mothers spend more time on Facebook in the first nine months after childbirth compared with before, according to a study in the July issue of the Family Relations journal. Almost all of the moms surveyed uploaded photos, with 63 percent saying they increased the photo sharing after childbirth, according to “AllFacebook,” the unofficial Facebook blog.
And 73 percent of first-time dads in the study said they posted more photos after baby.
“Parents may feel like they’re getting positive feedback about their role as parents,” study co-author Sarah Schoppe-Sullivan, the associate professor of human development and family science at Ohio State University, stated in a release. “These are all first-time parents, and they particularly need that.”
The Ohio State researchers examined the responses of 150 Midwestern couples making the transition to parenthood and found that 58 percent of the mothers visited their accounts at least once a day, compared with 44 percent of fathers, according to “AllFacebook.”
Lead study author Mitchell Bartholomew said in a release, “These mothers may be taking time off from work, and may be far from family, so this network they created for themselves on Facebook can be very valuable in helping them cope.”
I know that the seemingly uninterrupted, solitary hours I spent rocking, comforting and feeding my little one, while amazingly fulfilling, did send me in search of community, primarily through friends and dedicated Facebook mommy groups.
Along the same lines, new mothers who read and write blogs may feel less alone than mothers who remain outside the blogging community, according to another group of family studies researchers.
“It looks like blogging might be helping these women as they transition into motherhood because they may begin to feel more connected to their extended family and friends, which leads them to feel more supported,” said Brandon T. McDaniel, graduate student in human development and family studies at Penn State University. He worked on the study with colleagues at Brigham Young University.
The researchers found that 61 percent of the mothers who participated in the online survey wrote blogs and 76 percent read blogs. Of the moms who wrote their own blogs, 89 percent said they did it to “document personal experiences or share them with others,” and 86 percent said they wanted to stay in touch with family and friends through the blog.
“That potentially is going to spill out into other aspects of their well-being, including their marital relationship with their partner, the ways that they’re feeling about their parenting stress, and eventually into their levels of depression,” he said.
GREAT BLOGS FOR PARENTS
There’s a virtual universe — puns intended — of options out in the World Wide Web, but here are a few fun website picks to get moms and dads clicking for useful and fun inspirational content.
- “Cool Mom Picks,” coolmompicks.com
It’s tough to stay connected and, frankly, cool when you’re a new mom or dad. This website is a great way to catch up on all the great finds out there that you might simply not have the time to search out yourself these days. From recipes and product picks for baby or parents to sale alerts, and movie reviews to tech guidance, the site will have you feeling well-informed but also super-cool.
- “Oh Joy!,” ohjoy.blogs.com
We don’t know Joy, but we like her. Or, at least, we the glimpses of her life that she puts out into the e-world. Actually, there are about a half a dozen contributors to Oh Joy!, so credit where it’s due. This site isn’t wholly kid-centric, but it’s written from a parental perspective, which we think is a nice reason to highlight it — after all, we’re still the sassy guys and gals we were pre-children (who enjoy good food and fashion, incidentally). Plus, the photos and designs here are just the sort of thing that soothes frazzled mom eyes.
- “Apartment Therapy: Family,” apartmenttherapy.com/family
You don’t have to cease thinking about your abode’s decor just because you have kids. This site does a nice job of offering home-centric ideas for families. We love their DIY guides, inspirational photo spreads and features suggesting how to pull off great themed parties for kids (check out their recent take on throwing a “Super Mario Bros.” bash).
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